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Tought life please advice   desi   12/09/2017 03:01 PM  

Wife keeps quarel of each and everyy minute thing, she sleeps till 10 am in the morning, I have to wokeup get ready of myself, get ready of my breakfast, packmy lunch of yesterdays night dinner, and get ready for work, still complaints, you left the home without cleaning things properly, I have to rush to office, she shouts so loud i am afraid one day police will knock the door, inturn if I lift my hand to control after so much of patience, she said she will die saying my name, and leaving my kid and me alone, neither I cant control her nor I can live please advice, what to do I can die easily but my kid will be left alone, divorce is also difficult in this crooked world!! not sure what to do

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Re: Tought life please advice   kumar   12/09/2017 03:06 PM  

You need to inform her parents immediately and also cops.
Don't try to hide anything. If possible please try to collect any evidence of her doing wrong things (audio or video,....etc). I've been living in USA for 15 yr and came across so many married couple unable to resolve their differences. if you want to discuss please email aptforrent24 at yahoo

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Re: Re: Tought life please advice   desi   12/09/2017 03:26 PM  

dont want to go cops and all, it will be last step she will be barred from the states, chances are there me too get barred

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Re: Re: Re: Tought life please advice   Curious indian   12/09/2017 04:04 PM  

File for a no fault divorce. Wont be difficult unless child custody is the issue.
Its not like india where it will go on for years.

Break free from indian mind set where marriage is irreversible. Single or divorcee tag is much better than being in an abusive marriage.

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Re: Re: Re: Tought life please advice   kumar   12/09/2017 04:51 PM  

i am not suggesting you to register a complaint against your wife. just inform of her threatens, so they can record in their system. the reason i am suggesting because if she does something to her self, you will be in a huge problem. also did she visit india lately, i have seen few men that are not sending their wife to india either because of expensive airline ticket or H1 stamping concerns. that is not good either.

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Tought life please advice   Desi   12/09/2017 05:33 PM  

Divorce the bitch

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Re: Tought life please advice   sk   12/09/2017 05:39 PM  

How old is the child? If its less than 2 years then its normal. Some ladies take longer to come out of the child birth and parenting pressure

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Re: Re: Tought life please advice   Preet    12/09/2017 06:33 PM  

I can understand your frustration. But why she is yelling for small things?
Was she like this when she came here ? How long you guys been married?
Is she working ? There is no reason for someone to cat like this . Unless they have some motive or brain washing going on. I suggest you pin point that issue.. secondly, do report to cops as long as there is no physical abuse.... atleast it’s been reported..

If you think get involve with some counseling.. that works even though it feels like stupid..

Don’t take any one take advantage on you. They are trying to kill your self respect.. so stand up and fight for your right..

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Tought life please advice   Desi   12/09/2017 07:16 PM  

You are mother fucker you don't have right to someone else to call bitch !! How dare you asswhole

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Re: Tought life please advice   kl   12/09/2017 08:27 PM  

why is your wife shouting and yelling and not making lunch for you in the morning ? Is she behaving the same way from long time ? or after child birth ? some women maybe having post partum depression which can cause marital issues. Let her parents know of these issues and tell her she can be with them for sometime if she wants and some separate time will help both of you to consider divorce or repairing the relationship, take action as soon as possible as a kid is also involved. Good luck

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Re: Tought life please advice   Desi   12/09/2017 11:27 PM  

How old is your child? Ask her to come out of home and meet others. May be she is tired and frustated working on her own without any maid.

Iv seen girls play badminton here, they go to gym too so ask her to try if it interests her. It might act as a stress buster for her.

Dont think abt suicide. When this thought comes to your mind, think about your child and your parents. Fight back for your life. Inform her parents immediately.

Goodluck

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Re: Tought life please advice   Pity   12/10/2017 12:50 AM  

See if u want to stay here, book tic for ur wife and leave here with parents tell everything to them. If u going to complaint over here it will be a big mess for u, ur kid will get a bad life by u both. If u Pl r not enough close they why this stupid sex is coming between by u both kid is going to suffer.

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Re: Re: Tought life please advice   sk   12/10/2017 08:06 AM  

//some women maybe having post partum depression which can cause marital issues//

This comment is true. Women body secrets lots of hormones during and after pregnancy. Some will go mad 75%. Please google about this.
Thats why in Asian culture women stay with her parents during birth.

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Re: Tought life please advice   Nn   12/10/2017 05:50 PM  

Record everything.Just talk in soothing words.. Get her to India and leave her there to her parents with evidence.
Come back here and live happily.

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Re: Re: Tought life please advice   K   12/11/2017 11:47 AM  

See lets be honest its always easy to say to go to police file a complaint etc etc but aleays it gas strings attached going to police is alway not an option.See being in USA has its own venefits and disadv like if u end up filing a complaint there is a lot of mess ur name will be in the file till rest of ur life. Try to understand how it gonna impact ur kid probably u may never return back here. Eventhough u return everytime u hv to answer every customs officer questions raised on the topic u cant say hey dont ask its my personal. Also, do u think u can afford a lawyer and file and fight custody case? Do u even know the billing of them its not less than 600$per hr to find a lawyer who can make u win the case

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Re: Re: Re: Tought life please advice   K   12/11/2017 11:56 AM  

All these options should be your ultimate last choice. Meanwhile try to work with her there are lot of pentup struggle sometimes fillup in the minds of wife who turned to mother u know uncured depression,how there body looks hv changed,life perception,constant working for the baby and chores etc.They feel insecure thinking they r no longer attarctive to their husband. All this lil things sometimes we fail to notice pile up in their heart and mind and they try to ake it out by being vocal or being violent or being themselves away from everything. Try to spend mych time..dont take anything for granted. Even if she says something which u feel silly dont make her feel that its silly. Sometimes what u think and perceive may not be the same to the opposite person so be patient.If nothing going on well and constantly u are feeling abused physically and any voilent behaviour then use last weapon of police.But always try to reconcile putting 100% genuinity in the efforts

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