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| Problem with New Wife what to do |
Sri |
04/05/2019 12:03 PM |
Any senior guys, how do you handle?
When my newly wed wife started playing up massively.
Soon into marriage I realised the person I married isn’t the one I got to know.
She would pull a face if I wasn’t with her every second I wasn’t at work. Even if I went to see friends once every 2 weeks this was an issue for her, yet before marriage she knew I had a very social life. I tuned it all down but it wasn’t enough.
She got jealous that I bought things for family members and for her. Her exact words being “im your wife you should treat me better, you didn’t have to buy anything for anyone else”.
I’m a pretty laid back guy so I kept my calm and tried to speak to her and show her how unnecessary and childish these newly shown behaviours are, but that didn’t work.
I spent every evening attending to her, asking what she wanted before I got home from work. I asked her to pick anything she wanted to do on my day off and spent the day to fulfil that desire.
She moaned about the smallest of things and was the kind of woman that pushed until she got a reaction. My ‘fuck this I’m out’ moment was when she yelled in a state of anger that I was a rubbish husband and her ex’s treated her better than I do. She tried apologising anytime she said something in anger stating she can’t help it when she’s angry and doesn’t mean it.
My Internal very response was, I’ve done the best I can and if that’s not good enough, nothing ever will be. I suggest you leave my house and you’re free to crawl to ex’s or any other shithole you want to go to.
That was that.
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Just a Suggestion! |
04/05/2019 01:23 PM |
Just few suggestions. Feel free to ignore if this doesn't suits for you.
Is she a single child in her family? if that is the case, she might expect more of your time with her and think that u'd be treating her as a queen. a little more attention would in her situation, but u might be losing your own space, which is not good in the long run.
If its urs an arranged marriage, talk to her parents to correct their child. Understanding and giving respect to individual's decision is really needed in this world even if its between husband and wife. U cannot simply ignore your family members because of her. if you already tried talking to her and make her understand your situation, but nothing has improved means, try talking with their parents and make them to teach about marriage life.
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Maddy |
04/05/2019 03:57 PM |
Well first of all she's your wife. Just because she doesn't know about you writing like this about her, you can't disrespect her. You want to solve the problem and not make it big. Also marriage is complicated. Best way to solve any problem is to talk and calmly. Talk to her and her parents and also watch whether your parents said anything to her or in any way disrespected her.
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Married - cant get out. |
04/05/2019 05:00 PM |
Just play along. Cant change her, you need to get adopted to the new lifestyle.
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RJ |
04/06/2019 12:47 PM |
Why do you think she has so many "ex's"? lol
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Enjoy |
04/06/2019 02:38 PM |
You can write a book, won’t be enough.. simply kept its your personal life, deal wit it what is right for you. Enjoy spring/summer and life
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| Re: Problem with New Wife what to do |
May0 |
04/06/2019 10:39 PM |
Is she American?
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