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Depressed in married life   Peace   03/24/2019 12:34 PM  

My husband is a short guy and he has inferiority complex cz if that. To overcome this he bodyshames me alot. I am not an overweight female. My diet is moderate with gym too. Sometimes he is very rude and it hurts me a lot. I feel bad for him at times. But i cannot share anything with him due to his nature.i donno what to do

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Re: Depressed in married life   Peace   03/24/2019 12:55 PM  

Life is hard when rue lifepartner is like this. Insensitive and unapologetic. I long for peace very often. I was very chirpy. Now a days i prefer to be silent. Started loving silence. I fail to tackle my husband and his behaviour

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Re: Re: Depressed in married life   desi   03/24/2019 01:03 PM  

you need a break..why dont you plan any trip..

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Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Peace   03/24/2019 01:10 PM  

I thought of it desi. A visit to my close friends. But am in the midst of some exams for the purpose of a job tht i cant leave US.

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   desi   03/24/2019 01:24 PM  

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   kutta   03/24/2019 01:54 PM  

r u nri citozen?

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Peace   03/24/2019 02:07 PM  

Yes. Is it relevant?.. My husband is indian origin too

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   ct desi   03/24/2019 02:13 PM  

kutta peace must be NRI Citizen, otherwise which husband has dare to shame girl that too wife lol!!
Women nowadays have knowledge or rules and full support of society either divorce or re-marriag and law full support to bring them to road



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Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Peace    03/24/2019 02:32 PM  

I just wanna know if there r abyone in my shoes here. I find hard to cope with a man having such ego issues. I dont care the height though.fact is over the time i am emotionally detached from my husband. I dont know whtr he knows it or not.

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Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Peace   03/24/2019 02:35 PM  

I just wanna tell my frirnds here. A good realation is beyond your height weight etc.. These thibgs fade slowly. Realations stay there. Please dont behave like your partners. So you wont know when your partner leavr you mentally and emotionally

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Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Santosh   03/24/2019 04:58 PM  

Peace this is waste !!
He is giving you suggestions go to ZYM and do your body perfect so that your husband dont complain !! Good luck !!
This is very minor matter, you are looking in concave mirror

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Peace    03/24/2019 06:47 PM  

Friend i have normal bmi and go to gym regularly.

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Peace    03/24/2019 06:48 PM  

And there is nothing like perfect body too. If a rekation is only based on that its vane..

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Santosh   03/24/2019 07:51 PM  

Ok post your body(not face) will let u know if he is intentionally or you feeling bad unecessarily...

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Peace   03/24/2019 08:31 PM  

I reckon i neednt have to substantiate you in any way. I just want to meet someone in same phase or any support groups or know abt any counselling facilities which i can avail.

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Re: Depressed in married life   People== Shit   03/24/2019 08:35 PM  

Die

Don't share ur ass problems with people. nobody will help anyway

your life has been ruined.
better to commit suicide

One lost life will never change mankind

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Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Peace    03/24/2019 08:37 PM  

I dont need your permission. Who knows tomorrow you may be in a worse position than me. Either show some genuine route or stay away mate. I was never rude to anyone

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Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   peace2   03/24/2019 09:00 PM  

Peace I am sorry for you. However, this forum does not have mature members that can help you with what you are looking for (sympathy/advice/support). Most of them are restricted to thinking about visa renewals,next client, buying/selling used cars and used stuff etc. What you need is a genuine friend who can listen to you and to whom you can vent. Do you have anyone like that?

You also need to talk to your husband about the way he makes you feel. If he does not want to listen and change then be prepared to do whatever it takes to make you happy. It is not worth it to spend your life in a failed marriage

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Re: Depressed in married life   ctdesi   03/24/2019 09:06 PM  

to understand the problem statement correctly...what is your height and what's your husbands?

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Peace    03/24/2019 09:16 PM  

Thank you for the comment peace 2.i get that this is a wrong platform for me. Still i really wonder how many indians respond in a ugly when the face is hidden.and they still long for visa and other things.. Thank you again

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Common man!   03/24/2019 09:43 PM  

(at) Peace, did ur husband say that he is having inferiority commplex because of his height? If he has not explicity spoken about it, better u talk to him and let him talk to you.. if you both talk openly there will not be any problem between you guys. Most of the issues happening in married life is because husband and wife are not expressing themselves but they go with assumption. Just give it a try once again, u never know he might be having some other problem or pressure.. When u make him understand that u dont care abt his height or inf complex but his love and affection, he will try to change.
Ignore this reply if this is not relevant to your issue

Note: Though there are some creepy people post or reply their creepiest comments to some posts here, there are still some good people who really try to provide good advices to legit posts.. u got to ignore negative comments and take the positive ones to make progress.

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Peace    03/24/2019 09:56 PM  

Thank you for the comment

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Peace husband   03/24/2019 10:19 PM  

Hy Peace bebe,

Instead of talking to me what are you doing in the forum? yest you say I banged good today like this in forum very bad, OK come home will discuss and I will use something so I can become tall( why did you married if I was short)

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   TIRED OF DRAMA   03/25/2019 09:10 AM  

FO!!! ALL OF YOU!!!! YOU LOW IQ IMBECILES! LEAVE NOW!!!!!!

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Golti   03/25/2019 09:48 AM  

A bunch of Useless Golti’s who are jobless and they think they are smart.


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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   CT Babu   03/25/2019 10:17 AM  

no the way she is taling she must be women in my experience

Hi golti how are you no see.

- ct babu back

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Desi   03/25/2019 06:59 PM  

Ct Babu, you have been dethroned by NRI Citizen but Bihari beat him up

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Re: Depressed in married life   sajid   03/26/2019 11:59 AM  

hello (Peace):

I am deeply sadden by your situation, Marriage is joke it involved lots of commitments, compromises to each other....it gives meaning to live: how come the guy behave you this way? then why did he marry you:

anyway now you need to sit with him and discuss with him your do and don'ts see if he is mentally ok, if not then need to find solution by taking this issue to your parents and solve it. if required do take help from professional counselling.

If love isn't functioning like the sun, it's just a pen light.

love is important in marriage? its about commitment and hard work, accommodating to another's needs, health issues and emotionality. No one stays the same, and marriages are essentially an emotionally gymnasium that you either work at and get bulging wisdom muscles, or you're just a visitor waiting for your membership to expire.

he should come to compromise and know where he is the boss at work and you are the boss at home. These boundaries work for everyone.

There are more important things to worry about on a daily basis. he should know someone who's got my back when sickness, disability or poverty strike.

love is the secret sauce, but commitment, loyalty and discipline are far more important for becoming a cordon bleu chef in love's kitchen.

if the bond of love among the couples is strong enough then it will give the courage to love each other. Until love is real, everything else is just shadows.

Good luck

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Re: Depressed in married life   sajid   03/26/2019 12:23 PM  

Dear don't be panic,

clear his misconceptions abt his height, teach him how to love himself first, this will make him realize love has one face, radiating in separate directions. If love isn't functioning like the sun, it's just a pen light.

Marriage is about commitment and hard work accommodating to another's needs, health issues, emotionality.

you only can solve this issue, because you know each other.

good luck,


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Re: Depressed in married life   sajid   03/26/2019 01:12 PM  

Dear don't be panic,

clear his misconceptions abt his height, teach him how to love himself first, this will make him realize love has one face, radiating in separate directions. If love isn't functioning like the sun, it's just a pen light.

Marriage is about commitment and hard work accommodating to another's needs, health issues, emotionality.

you only can solve this issue, because you know each other.

good luck,


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Re: Depressed in married life   sajid   03/26/2019 01:19 PM  

hello (Peace):

I am deeply sadden by your situation, Marriage is joke it involved lots of commitments, compromises to each other....it gives meaning to live: how come the guy behave you this way? then why did he marry you:

anyway now you need to sit with him and discuss with him your do and don'ts see if he is mentally ok, if not then need to find solution by taking this issue to your parents and solve it. if required do take help from professional counselling.

If love isn't functioning like the sun, it's just a pen light.

love is important in marriage? its about commitment and hard work, accommodating to another's needs, health issues and emotionality. No one stays the same, and marriages are essentially an emotionally gymnasium that you either work at and get bulging wisdom muscles, or you're just a visitor waiting for your membership to expire.

he should come to compromise and know where he is the boss at work and you are the boss at home. These boundaries work for everyone.

There are more important things to worry about on a daily basis. he should know someone who's got my back when sickness, disability or poverty strike.

love is the secret sauce, but commitment, loyalty and discipline are far more important for becoming a cordon bleu chef in love's kitchen.

if the bond of love among the couples is strong enough then it will give the courage to love each other. Until love is real, everything else is just shadows.

Good luck

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Re: Re: Depressed in married life   busi   03/26/2019 02:40 PM  

sajid teri maa ki chut. Bhen ke laude.

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Re: Re: Re: Depressed in married life   Ct women   03/26/2019 04:13 PM  

Busi I dont like bad words but you are making it useful

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