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New to usa Husband not buying anything   sushma   03/17/2019 04:12 PM  

we newly came to usa from hcl, my husband told we will stay happily in usa, after coming here he not anything new at all, he is not buying new car, no dining table sofa, he is saying he is not sure how long we will stay in usa so buy second hand or he thinking to save money?


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Re: New to usa Husband not buying anything   Ashi   03/17/2019 04:54 PM  

What you looking here suggestions or what should be NEW or OLD ? or you wanted to know he saying right ?

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Re: New to usa Husband not buying anything   Ct   03/17/2019 04:57 PM  

If your husband works for an IT firm and is not sure how long you are going going to be here, I think it is a good idea to buy the needs first and then the comforts and lastly the luxuries. Car is a need in CT, may not be in some other states. Living room furniture, you can get second hand and once you are sure of the future plans and have some savings buy it as they are a bit expensive and more of a long term investment. Just my piece of advice.

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Re: Re: New to usa Husband not buying anything   Ctdwsi   03/17/2019 07:30 PM  

He fears visa denial

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Re: New to usa Husband not buying anything   desi   03/17/2019 07:59 PM  

Hi sushma, I guess you thought since you moved to US your life will be all flower bed garden from now on. I am sorry to brake it to you this is the life of software people in this country. why do you think Americans dont want to work in corporate here ? its cuz of these stress factors and uncertainty. please learn to live with it or go back to India and visit your husband when you can or move back to India with your husband. or buy second hand stuff..

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Re: Re: New to usa Husband not buying anything   sushma   03/17/2019 09:20 PM  

Thanks desi,

I came from upper middle class atleast, we use to give all our furniture to naukars, and every time my dad used to buy all new furniture every few years, we have 3 cars in home.
and my husband said we have better life style.
After coming here he is saying lot of IT issues so dont want to buy costly new stuff, so will buy second hand.
I feel so down how could I use the sofa who others have used, other car is feel like rental car for me. why he is not understanding me.

I dont know what issues he is saying as we have 3 years of visa. I am forcing him to buy brand new car and new sofa dinning table and all. If any guests comes they shouldnt think we are leading cheap life right but he fighted with me today and went out of home since yesterday. He says he is upset with me.
I am trying to understand is that the reason he is giving is genuine or just faking to save money. thanks.


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Re: Re: Re: New to usa Husband not buying anything   Myself    03/17/2019 09:55 PM  

I am sorry to say u are really stupid and stupid cus u are thinking about buying new stuff which u can not afford in CT everything is not a piece of cake u have to work and bust ur ass and be on ur leg for 12-24 hours to make the money and have the perfect life u want u need to understand if ur husband is the only working than stop depending on his money and get ur self out and work and there is nothing bad using stuff that’s already used just make sure it’s good and that’s all but all Indians care about the society and what they think than what u can do YOU NEED STOP GIVING A FUCK ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK AND DO WHAT U CAN

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Re: Re: Re: New to usa Husband not buying anything   A   03/18/2019 12:19 PM  

The adjustment to US is long term process. It has its own pros and cons.

The best is to be pragmatic and understand the finance and plan accordingly. Also you are dealing with two things at a go, moving with your husband and moving to US both are challenging on there own.




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Re: New to usa Husband not buying anything   Helper   03/18/2019 12:36 PM  

You can buy new furniture from American freight furniture store for cheap prices. Go there

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Re: Re: New to usa Husband not buying anything   sushma   03/18/2019 12:55 PM  

My father is businessman and we are in upper middle class,
cant buy the cheap stuff. Thanks for the advice BTW my husband hapily came home yesteday.


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Re: Re: Re: New to usa Husband not buying anything   Rajesh   03/18/2019 01:03 PM  

Shoot an email to rajhartford6 (at) gmail.com. We can give you a good deal.

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Re: Re: Re: Re: New to usa Husband not buying anything   Priya   03/18/2019 02:55 PM  

Rajesh miss you so much are you here lol!! dog man

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: New to usa Husband not buying anything   CT Babu   03/18/2019 04:57 PM  

Yes Priya. I know you had a good time yesterday

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Re: Re: Re: New to usa Husband not buying anything   Not important   03/18/2019 05:26 PM  

Enjoy ......

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Re: Re: Re: New to usa Husband not buying anything   Your Friend   03/19/2019 07:16 AM  

If you have 3 cars in India, it means you are rich LOL!!!. What your husband is saying is 100% true. If you have 3 years VISA it doesn't mean he will have work for 3 years, His client/company can send him back to India anytime. I am in USA for more than 3 years, when I first came my company said your Job here is only for 6 months, they didn't even booked tickets for my family for which I fought hard. I survived every six months and still surviving for the past 3 years and I am sure everyone in H1b is are in the same situation. Accept the fact, new furniture/car won't give you happiness, living happily with your spouse will give.


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