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need advice please help :(   S   07/06/2018 06:42 PM  

Hi everyone, I need an advice please help me out, I am so not at peace these days. I like a girl at my workplace, I love her more than anything. But i have no idea how she feels about me, we are not even good friends, we just work at same place so sometimes we talk. I want to tell her how much i love her and how i can do anything just to see her happy. But I am afraid if she said no, things will get really awkward after that. We work really close to each other and if she said no, whenever we will have an eye contact, it will be a very cringy moment for both of us. I am also scared she might tell others in the workplace that I asked her out and they might think wow what a weirdo, creeping on girls like that. But on the other hand, if i don't tell her, I will always have the regret that I should have asked her out, she might have said yes. I can't focus on anything now a days, all i think about is her. Last week she got into a road accident, and oh boy i can't even tell how much helpless i felt, i wanted to be there for her at all times but as someone who's just a coworker i just went to hospital and gave her some chocolates and came back. I literally cried for her after coming back. Please help me, give me some advice I am in a big dilemma here.

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Re: need advice please help :(   ST   07/06/2018 06:57 PM  

You don't poop where you eat man..keep it clean at work place..it will be horrible for your focus at work. I would advice against asking her out..you will be screwed either way..10 years of experience speaking here..have seen multiple messed up cases like this..

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Re: need advice please help :(   M   07/06/2018 09:01 PM  

Ask her out for a coffee, talk about personal stuff other than work. if she vibes with you, make a weekly outing a thing with her !! and one fine day !! BOOM !! throw a Ring at her !! and 2 years from that day picture yourself with a fair baby in your arms and she beside you !! BOOM !! Now wake up from sleep and get back to work !! cheap labor !!

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Re: Re: need advice please help :(   K   07/06/2018 10:12 PM  

I can completely understand your situation right now. I am a girl and have been through this. We worked in India together for a couple of months and he was already planning to move to USA. I never ever looked at him with that sense. And I never wanted to come to USA. Just after a month of joining he asked me ... and I was not at all prepared or expecting that question. I had the same thought that if my parents didn’t ageee one of us had to change the job because you simply can’t continue that way. After a lot of thought and of course parents consent we got married. And I think that was the best decision I ever made. Has been 13 years and it has been just so beautiful!

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Re: Re: Re: need advice please help :(   fake posters   07/06/2018 10:26 PM  

kya chutiyapa hai ye

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Re: need advice please help :(   RT   07/07/2018 09:32 AM  

Love at this age? Put your profile in matrimony and send her link

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Re: Re: need advice please help :(   S   07/07/2018 05:04 PM  

I wasn't expecting these kind of insensitive responses but thanks anyway.

K, that's what I am saying if she said yes, it can change my life. I don't know what should I do, please give me some advice as someone who has been in this situation. I love her so much and at this point I don't think I will be able to forget her no matter how hard I try unless I quit my job and don't see her ever again.

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Re: Re: Re: need advice please help :(   Personal experience    07/07/2018 10:01 PM  

Just go and ask her out man. Don’t hold regrets in life.

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Re: Re: Re: Re: need advice please help :(   genuine advice   07/07/2018 11:02 PM  

It is not easy..she might tell to otger collegues in office and it may become difficult for you to work in case she deny ur proposal.. move step by step..ask for tea and coffee and ask to go out in weekends and gradually make her feel special.

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Re: need advice please help :(   KhadaLund   07/08/2018 02:19 AM  

Just say it, dude..she will appreciate no matter she says yes or no..you have guts and you are honest to reveal your feelings...even if she says no, there is no question of things getting awkward. She might start showing interest in you later if not now because of your honesty. But yes, before revealing to her abruptly, start talking to her and when you are about to say...choose the right moment..when things are appropriate..like a calm quite place...say it on friday..that will give both of you adequeate time either sink into this beautiful feeling ..think over it..you may get lucky over weekends for a movie or dinner.

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Re: Re: need advice please help :(   desi   07/08/2018 06:45 AM  

Koi aur kam dhanda nahi hai kya tere paas, kahan kahan se chale aate hain ssale dhakkan

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Re: Re: Re: need advice please help :(   bighelper   07/08/2018 08:31 AM  

We in India are brought up on fantasy that when we like a girl or boy it is 'love'. Thanks to the movies and songs. In reality what you feel is is not love, but just physical attraction. Love comes much later when you get to know that person and know all about their likes / dislikes , good and bad.

So, since you like the girl, don't say I love you. Start off by paying more attention to her. Talk to her more, see if she responds. Make conversation to her when you meet her, don't just say hello and leave it at that. After you get to know her a bit and have talked to her a few times then maybe suggest that can we go out for lunch / coffee. She is smart enough to know when a boy asks her out he is interested. If she is too and agrees then go out with her a few times and see if this develops into something more. Love and relationships take time. It's not a hindi movie where hero says I love you and heroin falls into his arms and they sing a duet!

Don't be immature and just blurt out straightaway that you love her. Do the above and see where it goes.

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Re: Re: Re: Re: need advice please help :(   Yes   07/08/2018 11:49 AM  

Haha good one..true..

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