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Common issue but hurting alot!! |
Ct desi |
02/12/2018 07:24 AM |
Hi I have pretty common issue, my wife never allowing me to buy anything to my parents, who are solely responsible for me being here, when I need to come to USA, I have to do some deposit to the company, if the lottery doesnt pickup I will loose large chunk of money, I losted heavily in share markets at that time, I dont have money and FIL never given penny from his pocket even for borrow, its my father who given the helping hand and my lottery got picked up and rest is history,
Now I want to do return favor to my parents,but my conjuse wife never allowing to me spend anything on my parents, if I need to spend on them I have to spend 4 times on her other unncessary needs, I feel so down and helpless, cant fight nor able to compromise, how do you guys handle this situations please? heard my other friends also have the same issue..
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Re: Common issue but hurting alot!! |
well-wisher |
02/12/2018 10:55 AM |
Sit with her and talk about your situation.I guess by this time you already told multiple times.
But say that every parents struggle so hard for there kids. Your parents and even my parents. Now this is the time,i need to step up and help them back. Try to make her part of your family - instead your wife is also a family.
Try to make her feel that your making her as part of family- not just by words but by actions-
yea, its a complicated situation and you really need to work on this issue
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Re: Common issue but hurting alot!! |
Helper |
02/12/2018 11:12 AM |
I think you should understand her perspective, she is trying to save money for you and her future and maybe your kids. Your parents should of saved money before hand for there retirement. When your parents keep asking for money it becomes a problem rather your parents should understand money is hard to earn and you also have to take care of your family here as well. It shouldn't be just your responsibility to pay for each and every expense for them. Your wife is not being selfish.
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Re: Common issue but hurting alot!! |
AB |
02/12/2018 07:15 PM |
I may not agree to the way you think the favor !
Helping parents is not a favor but responsibility of every adult child!
If you and your wife agree to that point you may have less issues ! Not doing responsibility is kind of sin! It also depends how strong you are in fulfilling your responsibilities and make sure that is communicated properly to your wife !
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