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Solution for knowing financial Matter as a wife is a good or not |
Confused wife |
08/11/2017 10:05 PM |
My husband is not ready to share what's happening with finances and no access to his bank statement nor is he ready to open a joint account ( I don't really expect that because I am a non working wife)
All he has to say is I know what to do with MY money. U can earn yours & then look at the statement ( I am hurt cz I told him clearly that I won't be working after marriage) . I never showed my mom how can I show u.???is wat is responded 😱 He jumps on me shouting "Don't you trust me ". ?
Don't I have any rights to even look at his bank statement.
I am not asking him to open a joint acc or share his password ( he lock all his phone , laptop every possible thing ) I don't have access to any...
Since I am a mother of two now ..I am feeling insecure
He makes me feel guilty for no reason. And blames me that I don't trust him.
But I feel that he is not trusting me enuf to share his bank statement or why is he even hiding it from me ?
Can anyone let me know if I am wrong anywhere & how can I correct myself & the situation
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Re: Solution for knowing financial Matter as a wife is a good or not |
Hus |
08/11/2017 11:01 PM |
you have all the right to know, but don't create a fight.
Have you asked him multiple times already?
Maybe it's as simple as he don't have much money in his account and he don't want you to know, or his love for you got slightly reduced for whatever reason.
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Re: Solution for knowing financial Matter as a wife is a good or not |
Leela |
08/12/2017 12:14 AM |
If you love him to your core why this money issue is going to come just trust him, is he buying ur necessary things? Don't bully him by asking this type of questions, as a wife support him, in leisure time just tell him softly I am worried about our future thats why asking about money, on that time if he is going to shout at you, it's clear that he don't have much money tension all stuffs, be a good wife, mom of 2 kids support your family and enjoy your life with them. Don't take unnecessary stuffs in your mind.
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Re: Solution for knowing financial Matter as a wife is a good or not |
RN |
08/12/2017 09:52 AM |
Drinking and gambling are an escape from an unhappy marriage. Either you accept it, fix it or leave. Do not fight it and be miserable.
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Re: Solution for knowing financial Matter as a wife is a good or not |
HAHA!!! |
08/12/2017 06:55 PM |
Bitch yo gettin Old..yo pussy stankz and looz az helz...he probly haz a side bich..!! you the home maker..the other women the care giver..!! he probably pay her monthly ...so he dont want u to know...!!!
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Re: Solution for knowing financial Matter as a wife is a good or not |
my 2 cent |
08/14/2017 08:28 PM |
You have right to know, hoever, you should also ask him, how was his boss and team members doing, are they hard on him?
is he struggling with his job, or is he secure enough.
Has he received good feedback from client, or client has abused him.........
If you do not ask about all these, then you should fight with him over financial issues..... and let him relax....
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Re: Solution for knowing financial Matter as a wife is a good or not |
All the best |
08/14/2017 10:38 PM |
I am a husband and I also dont like to share my finacial with my wife. that is because my wife always wants to spend money for her family...she always cares about her parents...neglecting my parents/brothers because of whom she is here in USA. Most time she spends on phone with her family. I avoid fights because of my kids. She wants to work but that is to buy a lot for her parents/brothers and brother's wives.
Hope you are not like this.
Offer him a cup of tea/coffee or a glass of water when he comes to home. Don't ask him anything. Take care of his family and your kids with your best. Don't fight back, it will ruin kids life. Everything will be fine over time.
I have seen many cases like these. Wait and you will have a very good life ahead.
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Re: Re: Solution for knowing financial Matter as a wife is a good or not |
helper |
08/15/2017 12:39 PM |
I am amazed at many of the responses here. It seems as if most of the people are still living in the stone ages. Don't ask him, be nice to him, be quite, take care of home nicely , let him be, seem to me the advice many are offering. What a shame !! Someone said don't talk of such small things in forum. This is not a small thing. She is his partner and has every right to ask him questions and to know about finances and any other matter. He is the one who is acting as a total jerk. She is taking care of kids and house, which is a job in itself. If he does not respect her then he is a loser.
My advice to the 'wife' is, first be strong and try to become independent. I know you cannot work because of the visa, but start doing things like learning to drive and finding friends with whom you can hang out. Don't be totally dependent on him. Above all be strong and do not be weak. If he becomes abusive and uses violence threaten to call the police. This will scare the shi# out of him. I know many will say, why do this, be quite and just be submissive. But why should she live like this? She seems a well educated woman. If he cannot respect her then he does not deserve her. She is a human being and every human being has dignity and should not be treated like he is treating his better half no less. Shame on this guy.
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